Thursday, May 16, 2013

How to apologize ?



It is not easy to admit every human being and apologize for the other party, because the ability to recognize the error is in itself the ability require you to have a sense of responsibility and taste. Valaatmar high value of the civilized human values ​​which transcends morals and rises above the condescension and arrogance that infects some other people.

There comes to mind the moment that an apology detract from the dignity or the strength of character but on the contrary person confident of itself is which initiates an apology and can remedy the situation and restore relations to their natural origin.

Steps to help you to make an apology in an appropriate manner

Well .. I decided to take responsibility for your mistake and apologize, but there are and the basics of assets must be taken into account in order to apologize in an appropriate manner.

Select the type of relationship that connects you with the person you want to apologize to him:



Is the apology will offer to your wife is the same one that will offer to your boss? Does s just too similar to your father to to one of your friends? Of course not, although they are all social relationships, but differ in the degree and method of dealing with each one of them. There are two types of relationships with people:

Type I: practical relationships in your life
It is not appropriate, for example, if you want to apologize to your boss or colleague at work to give him a bouquet of roses an expression of Osvk. Permission to work in the field of the relationship within the limits of official and tend to deal. And must take into account the following:

Whether you are a president or a subordinate at work you to pick your words carefully and avoid injure one of your colleagues.
Avoid to raise your voice to one of your colleagues or be sharply in All these roads lead to anger and then Tfkdk control your temper, you will find yourself in the right colleague mistaken.
Be nice good manners in your dealings with colleagues and avoid doing what oppress.
You specify the error that occurred and promise not to repeat it again, for example, if Reiterates the Word for the work you specify why you always delayed and treatment is not appropriate never have to make up a new excuse every day, that loses credibility.
Type II: relationships in your personal life and family

In stark contrast to the limits of your relationship in the work environment, the relationship that connects you with your wife or your friend or a family member are inherently more coherent and flexible.

In these types of relationships Unleash your sense of and deal with the situation, for example, to dedicate to your wife a bouquet of roses or even a single rose enough, what's the coolest way to express sincere sense.

Select the appropriate time to provide

Each shrine article, yes selecting the appropriate time plays a big role in influencing the other party to accept the apology. You are here in this step to think of the person you want to apologize to him and determine the appropriate time to do so, do not go to him, for example, charged in the middle of his day and ask him to talk to him, it may be unprepared or is initializer psychologically. Choose a time where it can fit express Osvk the so as not Ikatek the one and you have to postpone talk for another time and harder for you to create the right atmosphere to start talking again.

Admitted Bouktik the

Go to the person you ask him to forgive you and simply admit that you made a mistake and not feel honest not begin to fabricate excuses and justifications for your behavior is faulty, it may come to explain the reasons that led to the position at a later time.

The desire to reform and change the situation actually

Not enough to feel remorse and sense that you are wrong on the right of a person and continue to repeat the same mistake over and over again, but you have to think of how to fix the situation and the desire to compensate the person whether compensation morally or physically, in some cases, may be exposed in your life to the positions have the offer financial compensation to the other party and fault occurred, even if unintentionally, such as accidents, God forbid, do not overlook that compensation for moral indispensable to the physical aspect.

It is better to apologize face to face - if possible

Valaatmar and face-to-face where emotions are closer to the heart and more obvious, and expresses that you are still interested in the other party actually intends to apologize sincerely and not only to end the tense situation.

Be simple and spontaneous expression of Osvk

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