Wondrous you are a friend for two do not meet, companion to the parties do not mix, Habib hearts hate each other. Do you see yourself in line with the opposing parties, communicates with one hours, then continue with the other more hours. Fathtar between them, and sometimes Ataftr the your heart Ogelhma, and want to do something for them, anything! I do not know what it is, but you want something that makes the flow relationship between them, as both friend and hurts yourself to take one hostile attitude than the other.
How fit between the two
Before that progress on reform between rival parties, you must possess the skills entitle this task. Being wish theoretically reform, it must be your character already carry in their nature make them queens Welcome him. You if you want to go ahead with the reform steps you have to be people and broad chest, loved and trusted among individuals, a good listener, style wise manner. And you have to be fair and honest investigating the fairness between the parties, even if you are - implicitly - tend to one of them without the other.
Reform steps
When you realize that there Tmasa between the friends of your friends, and you are ready to fix the above skills, you will have to follow the following steps in order to go in the peace process:
Listen to every individual.
To reach a point of convergence between the two parties.
The meeting with the opposing parties.
The first step: to listen from each individual separately
It means that the individual sessions with each party separately. At first, you have to use your intelligence. Because you will go gently, gently and in a spontaneous manner. Otherwise you may be refused to intervene very improbable possibility.
Choose the most inclined to party reform, and choose the moment that looks urgent need for the intervention of a party to the dispute, and then select the word which will enter intelligently. Make words express the feelings of a friend you're talking to your trusted, but realize that you understand it and understand the confusion. If start by saying: I understand how uncomfortable you are out of this situation!
You once said such talk will find a friend expressed his problem without stopping. Here, you have to listen, and listen, and then you also have to listen! And not only listen, but you have to show sympathy with him and used the words reflect his understanding was says: Oowoowoowoh! God you?? How did this happen? This is really hard! Reasonable? Not that these problems must may very Erhguetk! In addition to these expressive phrases, you have a friend of his imagination involved in to wish him what he wishes, even if imaginary. If you say to employees were tired treatment manager: íÇŃíĘ if managers without jobs!
You should listen fully to listen to the first party, you'll find will start to talk, talk, talk. As you during the above-mentioned techniques will be used, and minutes later, and perhaps hours this way, you'll find has calmed down, calmed down quite, burst then finished! Here, take a deep breath and ask:
"Do you wish to solve this problem?"
: "The problem does not solve it!"
And you say to him: "Of course not solve it unless you make concessions, Are you ready to make concessions for all solve the problem?"
"I do not mind, provided that the other party keeps on ... and on ... and on ..."
"Can you narrow down the things that bother you from the other to a lesser extent?"
"Well, enough not to do so ... and so ..."
Of course, this scenario is by default, but the effect is that the meeting with the first party must end to the following conclusion:
Announced a desire to end the problem.
Acceptance of the principle of compromise.
Identify potential points of others from the other party and shortened as much as possible, but not impossible include requests such as changing the character attributes of the other party.
Phase II
It is quite similar to the previous step, but the sessions will be with the other party. We must experience this time will be much better, and the same will achieve the desired results faster. The treading with the second party says that the first party you may explain some of the details of the dispute or not? The fact that this issue is due to a second party figure, and will be your knowledge of him and his personality guide you in it.
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